I've mostly been a silent admirer of your pieces (and I apologize. I'm just not very good with words where they count). I'd like to say something, though...if I may be so bold.
Don't sacrifice for your art, love. I know it's hard! Well, I don't know in terms of photography per se, but success is tantalizing and desirable. However, I feel what you stand for and what you wish to showcase in your photography is a blissful and beautiful message... one that shouldn't be abandoned. There are multiple roads to success, just remember that. Even if it takes more time and patience. I think every place has a need and a time for sacrifice, but I don't think little things like this are worth it. This is just me, though! I don't mean to be demanding or anything.. just trying to help!
However, perhaps, if you do wish to press forward with more things of this nature (more materially based than soul-based)... perhaps you can find a good balance! Look at these shoots as experiments or money makers... whatever floats your boat. Perhaps ask precisely what the client is looking for/desiring from your shoot. I don't think they'll frown upon you for trying to get some clarity/direction, as this might actually help you better understand where to go. Then set up shoots and such where you can do precisely what you love. Or, if it's really bugging you, maybe these particular genres aren't for you. I'm sure there is some genre out there, where soul is beautiful and desired. I know, personally, I'd like my soul to be captured as best it could. So perhaps, if you can, getting in to more personal sessions/clients would help soothe you? Well, I'm a bit confused now. I guess it depends if you modeled or shot this particular thing. I'm sorry! I was thinking of you as the photographer, since you were speaking of editing. Either way, I'm sure the same can be said for modeling: find those artists with particular visions. I know I'd always want soul in the portrayal of my vision, at least.
But, if worse comes to worse! Keep smiling. Go do something you love, and try to forget about it for a while. Maybe use your camera just for fun for a while, with no other person's expectations but your own in mind. Then, maybe, you can return to the critique and try and see where you can compromise. Personally, I find it easier to take critique if you look at it as someone trying to help you to grow! but, be aware. Not everyone is trying to do this.. but I think you can use your best judgment.
I'm sorry you're stressed out, and I'm sorry I can't really be of help. My advice? Take some time for yourself. Relax. Rejuvenate. Then try again with an open mind and a passionate heart. Maybe ask some extra questions, too, if you feel it would help.
Best wishes, and good luck! I have faith that you'll give your best. You'll be fantastic, never fear! It's just all about getting past uncertainty.